Ow! Ow! Ow!
I just hit a brick wall.
These days seniors like us hit many brick walls Some because of health and age issues. Some because of financial problems. The wall I hit was about a relationship.
In my 80+ years of life I have learned much about getting through tough spots. Persistence and prayer usually work. But a brick wall? Butting my head against a brick wall can just get me hurt … not through it. If I keep trying I just get angry and bitter. Not good. I want to live my geezer years in joy!
Why is there a brick wall between me and the person, (a woman) in the relationship? There could be one of two reasons. The obvious reason is that the other person wants no more of me. Forcibly trying to break through that wall would be harassment. I don’t want that. But there is another possibility. It could be that God put the brick wall there because I was getting hurt in the relationship and God was watching my back. Butting my head against a wall that God built is dumb and stupid.
Is there another way? Another way to live my geezer years in joy? Yes there is but there is a little pain involved. I need to change, like look and move in a new direction. Change always requires a little pain … for a while … but it is good pain.
And so I look in a new direction. And see new people. And there are no walls.
I guess God has my back!
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It is healthy for Biddies and Geezers like us to … once in a while … get out of our usual surroundings and get some “new” experiences. Gives us “New Life.” As I write this I’m visiting my Biddie friend (let’s call her) Pam in Providences, Rhode Island.
It’s early in the morning and I am up with a cuppa coffee. Pam is still abed and won’t be up until about 10 am. So I have time to contemplate some of the mysteries of life.
I slept on a futon in the living room and now in my robe and PJ’s I look around at Pam’s world.
Culture Shock! Despite the many things Pam and I have in common, there are things that are so different. Where my digs in Quincy, Mass are bare and Spartan, Pam’s are filled with stuff. Not only furniture and kitsch, but also flowers and living plants. And a white Persian cat. Longhaired. My reaction? It is as if I have awakened into a dream … another world.
And I remember that our histories are also different. Yet we are friends. Deep within my spirit I know we were meant to be … friends. No surprise then that our living surroundings are different. This speaks to my spirit at this early hour.
It says none of us are “complete” in ourselves but we need “others” to meld into our soul to create a “whole.” I realize the model of male/female for all new life is not an accident but a lesson. I realize it is a model for the greater miracle of new “spiritual life.” The melding of my spirit with the Spirit of God. How THAT happens is for another blog post, but for right now …
I look forward to today when Pam and I will share the joy of each other’s company and the adventure of togetherness. Then later I will return to my apartment. I will return refreshed to my Spartan digs in Quincy which are just right for me so I have no distractions as I scribble books and stories to you, my friends who are on the other side of my laptop screen.
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For an 85 year old Geezer like me, the Internet has been a blessing. I live alone, but with my laptop and smartphone I am in daily contact with friends and family all over the country. Actually all over the world. But there is a problem.
There is a culture of crooks on the internet whose occupation is stealing money from people like me. (And you.) The thing is somebody in a grass hut in the Philippines with a laptop connected to the internet can get into your computer and then into your bank account and rob you blind. It happens every day.
So, we Biddies and Geezers must make sure that we have the right kind of security protection on our devices that will detect and stop viruses, worms, Trojan Horses and other malware that the crooks use to steal our money.
I wrote a little book, “I Stole $89,620.12” to warn Biddies and Geezers. It’s fiction, but it could happen. My purpose is to give you an example of the type of thinking that can get you scammed and flimflammed out of your money. According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary English is full of words concerned with trickery and deception, ranging from the colorful “flimflam,” “bamboozle,” and “hornswoggle” to the more mundane “deceive,” “mislead,” and “delude.” Flimflam” is often used specifically to refer to swindling someone out of money. The ultimate origin of “flimflam” is uncertain, but the word is probably of Scandinavian,
Anyway, there is a lot of it going on. My little book is available on Kindle for $0.99. (Free if you have Kindle Prime.)
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Good Morning to my Biddie and Geezer friends and followers. I’ve just finished breakfast and am looking at the sun shining on the view outside my sliding glass doors. I’m south of Boston and the city skyline is in view with the sun shining some of the windows of the tall buildings turning them into walls of shining gold.
By deliberate choice, I ignore that I was “unfriended” by someone last week. This is the key to this blog, folks. This blog is about Living Well. My joy is based on NOW. And now is a new day. My stomach is satisfied. I’m sharing now with you, my friends and followers, and after Tai Chi exercises and a shower, I will go downstairs to the community room where L*** will host coffee and doughnuts for the residents of the building.
After that, I may take my rolling cart on the bus to a downtown store where I will buy a few bottles of wine. My friend, Pam (not her real name), introduced me to the benefits of wine. There are several very real health benefits. Later blogs will talk about these. But for today I share Pam’s motto, “A day without wine is like a day without sunshine.”
So, about this blog. It’s about sunshine. Sunshine in our souls. Today. It’s about feeling good and living well for Biddies and Geezers like me. It’s not about advice for “Senior Citizens.”
Regardless of your health. Regardless of your past relationships … past history. It’s about living well TODAY.
In that spirit … you will see my next blog when you see it. While I may (or may not) write every day, I will publish the next blog when I feel it’s right. My goal is to LIVE WELL and share that with you.‘Till the next blog, Shalom from Doug.
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