# 53 Our Autumn Years

For us Biddies and Geezers the time has come to realize we ain’t in the summer of our lives any more. But it ain’t winter yet. Sure, there are lots of things we just can not do anymore, or should not do. But this time of our lives was made by God for some very special activities that can only be done in Our Autumn Years.

 

Take a clue from the leaves of the trees. In the summer they are green and very busy. The leaves produce food for the trees by converting the energy in sunlight into chemical energy that the tree can eat. The structures within the leaves convert the energy and make it possible for the tree to get food. Green chlorophyll is the molecule in the structure of the leaves that takes the energy in sunlight to turn water and carbon dioxide gas into sugar and oxygen gas. But the autumn is that time of year when the leaves gradually lose their green hue and their true colors come out.

I am always in awe at the various brilliant colors of the trees share with us in the autumn. But back to us Biddies and Geezers. We have beautiful things to share in our autumn. I still remember many of the things my grandmother shared with me when ai was a little boy.  They were good for me then. But there are several things she shared that I  have not understood or appreciated until now in the autumn of my life.

And there are things we can do for the generation behind us, like watching their kids while they get a chance to be by themselves.

I could go on and on … but I shall not because this is really about you and you have a different “autumn color” than I do. Share that in …

The Autumn of Your Years.

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# 51 Hitting a Brick Wall

Ow! Ow! Ow!

I just hit a brick wall.

These days seniors like us hit many brick walls Some because of health and age issues. Some because of financial problems. The wall I hit was about a relationship.

In my 80+ years of life I have learned much about getting through tough spots. Persistence and prayer usually work. But a brick wall? Butting my head against a brick wall can just get me hurt … not through it. If I keep trying I just get angry and bitter. Not good. I want to live my geezer years in joy!

Why is there a brick wall between me and the person, (a woman) in the relationship? There could be one of two reasons. The obvious reason is that the other person wants no more of me. Forcibly trying to break through that wall would be harassment. I don’t want that. But there is another possibility. It could be that God put the brick wall there because I was getting hurt in the relationship and God was watching my back. Butting my head against a wall that God built is dumb and stupid.

Is there another way? Another way to live my geezer years in joy? Yes there is but there is a little pain involved. I need to change, like look and move in a new direction. Change always requires a little pain … for a while … but it is good pain.

And so I look in a new direction. And see new people. And there are no walls.

I guess God has my back!

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# 50 Sleepless in Quincy

Rats! It’s 2 am and I am wide awake. Again! Oh, I went to bed at 10 pm. Tossed around. Dozed and got up a few times to pee. And now I’m wide awake writing this bit of unwisdom to you, my dear reader.

The day they taught “How to Get to Sleep” at Pandeez school, (I’m a Pandeez, by the way,) I played hooky and was on a date with my friend Myrtle. But that’s for another story. I was wide-awake all that night.

And now I’m Sleepless in Quincy. Like Sleepless in Seattle? Not exactly. This is not going to end with me meeting Myrtle at the top of the Empire State Building in New York City. Seattle? After my wife Janet passed away, my friend Griggs invited me to live at his house in Seattle for a couple of months. Strange, but I had no trouble sleeping in Seattle. But then it was time to come home and move to Quincy. Where I’m sleepless … often.

The first remedy I tried for this malady was to make myself a cuppa coffee with cream and sugar, Didn’t get me sleepy, but at least I felt good.

My friend Julie in Tucson suggested I dose on Sleepytime tea with raw honey before bedtime. Again ,,, felt good, but  no help for my sleepless malady. My friend Pam in Rhode Island had two suggestions. The first was melatonin. Tried it. Nada. The next was to smoke a joint but I no longer can smoke anything if I want to live.

So … here I am. Now it’s almost 3 am. I’m drinking a glass of seltzer with a squirt of lemon juice. I’m writing this to you, my dear reader and you know what?

Wicked is a word we use in the Boston area for a great superlative. I’m in Quincy, close enough. II see the Boston skyline through my sliding glass doors. And my word to you is, “I’m feeling wicked good!” I’m doing what I was meant to do.

So, my friend, if you are up at 2 am for any purpose, think of me. Face toward Boston and give a wave. I’ll be downing a glass of seltzer and scribbling a Blog, story or a book. While …

Sleepless in Quincy!

Shalom.

 

 

 

#3 Have Faith

#3 Have Faith

The expression “Sometimes Shit Happens” is true for me today as I write this tip to you on how having faith will tune into God’s program of living well. So I must take my own medicine.

What happened? Doesn’t matter. But it was a strong emotional blow to me with no immediate indication of how I would get through it. It is time for immediate First Aid. My First Aid is to have faith that God loves me and will get me through my trauma and back to Living Well.

Here is a piece of wisdom: “We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.” The quote is by Pierre Teilhard de Chardin (1881-1955), the French philosopher and Jesuit priest.

The present human experience that is giving me pain is temporal relating to earthly natural time as opposed to the eternal which is supernatural and is my spiritual home. But in my human experience, the only way I can see my spiritual home, where all is eternally well is through Faith.

And so, through faith, I can just decide that, regardless of my human condition, I am well.

“If you can believe, all things are possible to him who believes.” (Mark 9:23).    “Without faith it is impossible to please God.” (Hebrews 1:6), but if we can believe, all things are possible!”

This world is divided into two groups: those who make it happen and those who ask, “What happened?”  The one group has faith, and the other group does not!

The battle lines are drawn between believers and unbelievers, between the faithful and those without faith, between the optimists and pessimists and between people of action and those who do nothing but sit on their hands!

So my word to you (and myself) is have faith that God will bring you through. Then act … and do, and move on to Living Well.

Shalom.

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#2 Do Good

Do Good! That is the most powerful tip for living well. The Universe is wired to shower rewards on you if you do something good for another person … or animal.

Giving money to a charity is nice but not the best way to reap the reward of a blessed life. You, personally doing the good deed is what God loves … and rewards.

Dark anger roils through much of the world today. Anger flows through many people. But if you are alert you will see opportunities for yourself to provide some good deed that, like a ray of sunshine, will brighten the corner where you are. Even for the angry people. Especially for the angry people. It’s a powerful healing force.

Doing good results from a mental decision that runs counter to the body’s reflex responses to conserve energy.  While it is a free will decision made by each individual body, once it is made and acted on by one member of a society, there is an invisible “follow the crowd” imperative that works on the minds of the rest of that society. The psychic and material well being of the society improves by a multiple of the “do good” energy expended.

So … do you want to improve your life? Do you want to live better? I strongly suggest you observe the world around you … and you will see individuals … leaders … who are brightening the corner where they are by “doing good.”

You will see the person on the crowded bus or subway stand and offer their seat to an elderly or more infirm person. You will see someone who organizes a “free coffee hour” for their neighbors. Then get donation of coffee and day-old doughnuts from a local business, and prepares a spread in the morning to share with the neighbors as they share fellowship over the free repast. And more examples that spread invisible radiations that foster feelings of well being.

Yes, do good and you will reap the invisible reward of Living Well.

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#1 Forgive

Want to get well? I do. And I have found that the #1 priority to my living well is for me to forgive others. I must forgive people who have hurt me in the past and people who are hurting me now!

I live well not because I “earned it,” but because I accept my wellness as a free blessing from God. But there is one condition. Just as God has forgiven me for my offences against  Him, I must forgive every person who has hurt me or is hurting me now. Unconditionally.

Not for any contrition or recompense they have given me, but proactively.

There is only one way that is possible.  I must accept and allow myself to be a conduit for His love and forgiveness for all people.

This is the strange wonder of God’s world. It is in giving we receive. It is in forgiving we are forgiven by God.

There is “stuff” from some of my family and from some of my friends that hurts. I don’t understand it. Some now and some in the past. I don’t understand but it does not matter. My #1 priority is to UNCONDITIONALLY FORGIVE.  As I do, God’s universe unfolds a blessing of wellness into my life regardless of my material condition.

In my life there are some friends and some family that have “unfriended” me.  I have no idea of any specific offense I have given them.  But following this rule I have forgiven them. Now the debt of unforgiveness is upon them and has consequences. Sad.

Make forgiveness your #1 priority for wellness,

Shalom.

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#48 Life is an Omlet

Again … I’m writing this post from my friend Pam’s apartment. in Providence , Rhode Island. The Big Little. It’s 3 am and I’m having breakfast. An omelet left over from yesterday, reheated in the microwave. OMG it’s fabulous.

 

Some of you may never had an omelet so great it was still scrumptious heated over the next day.

 

So … when I realized that … I realized that the LIFE of a person is like an omelet.

 

Really? Sure! First there is the rather “pure” individual who lives a life like a “simple” omelet. A simple omelet is a couple of eggs wisked with a little milk and gently heated in a frying pan. Then slid onto a plate and maybe seasoned with a little salt and pepper. Nourishing, but certainly not exciting.

 

A few people add a couple of more ingredients to their omelets, (to their lives.) Maybe they like a little chopped onions or parsley. It’s still pretty much like a 9-5 job. The world needs 9-5 people.

 

The omelets Pam and I make are like the lives we have led. Filled with all sorts of interesting stuff so that eating it is a rare experience. This morning’s omelet had eggs and milk of course. Plus! Chopped onions, chopped celery, sliced green olives, capers, spinach, prosciutto, and even a little bit of shredded cheese.

 

The strong flavors melded together into an experience. Fantastic! Even reheated the next day.

 

It’s “the next day” in Pam’s life and my life. And the memories remain alive like our omelet. Fantastic.

 

How is your omelet?

 

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